Oh my fellow introverts. I feel you and I recognize you. I know you are so excited about your wedding but those feelings of exhaustion are already creeping up on you aren’t they? I mean a whole day surrounded by people, the centre of attention, everyone staring at you, having to talk in front of people. It makes you want to crawl up and become a blanket burrito doesn’t it.
Trust me I get it. I describe myself as a not shy introvert. I can bring it if I need to but Im going to be exhausted by too much human interaction. Don’t worry! There are a ton of ways to soothe your introverted soul and make sure that your wedding is organized to maximize your enjoyment. I am here to help with that.
One | Be honest with yourself, your partner, your family and your vendors about what your needs are and what you can realistically handle. You don’t have to have a wedding like everyone else. Letting your vendors know your limits allows them to cater to you in the best way possible. I know what its like to be introverted. We can break your photo times up so you don’t get overwhelmed or I can make sure that we get you away from the crowds for your photos.
Two | Plan buffer time in your timeline and organize breaks for your mental well being. It is really stressful and overwhelming to rush from one part of the day to the next. Talk about anxiety inducing. Talk to your planer and photographer about how to schedule in small breaks to get away from people and take a moment to breathe.
Three | Consider a first look to assuage any nerves. First looks are a great way to take a breather and be with your love before having to interact with all your guests. I know how much you love your guests but time to yourself is not something to apologize for. It may also allow you to be more vulnerable which will result in truly precious photos.
Four | You don’t have to make a long winded speech. It is always nice to thank the people who are a part of your life and your wedding journey but there are a lot of ways to do that. Your friends and family know you and know if speeches make you break out in a cold sweat. Lean on your partner if this is a strong suit for them. Or write out your thoughts on a printed card that can be left at each seat. Your guests can read your sentiments and have it with them as a lovely token of your appreciation. Or pre record your thoughts and play it on a screen on the day of. Your wedding your way.
Five | Plan the wedding you want to have. You don’t have to dance in front of everyone if you don’t want to. You don’t have to sit separately at a sweetheart table, you don’t have to have a receiving line. You can set up your ceremony any way you want or even get the legalities out of the way in advance and have no ceremony and just a reception. Rock it your way.
In the end being introverted is a part of who you are and your wedding is a reflection of who you are. Your wedding should not be something you dread but something that celebrates your love story. Whatever that looks like.
Arynn Photography | Toronto Wedding Photographer