An Introverts Guide to a Comfortable Wedding Day

Oh my fellow introverts. I feel you and I recognize you. I know you are so excited about your wedding but those feelings of exhaustion are already creeping up on you aren’t they? I mean a whole day surrounded by people, the centre of attention, everyone staring at you, having to talk in front of people. It makes you want to crawl up and become a blanket burrito doesn’t it.

Trust me I get it. I describe myself as a not shy introvert. I can bring it if I need to but Im going to be exhausted by too much human interaction. Don’t worry! There are a ton of ways to soothe your introverted soul and make sure that your wedding is organized to maximize your enjoyment. I am here to help with that.

One | Be honest with yourself, your partner, your family and your vendors about what your needs are and what you can realistically handle. You don’t have to have a wedding like everyone else. Letting your vendors know your limits allows them to cater to you in the best way possible. I know what its like to be introverted. We can break your photo times up so you don’t get overwhelmed or I can make sure that we get you away from the crowds for your photos.

Two | Plan buffer time in your timeline and organize breaks for your mental well being. It is really stressful and overwhelming to rush from one part of the day to the next. Talk about anxiety inducing. Talk to your planner and photographer about how to schedule in small breaks to get away from people and take a moment to breathe.

Three | Consider a first look to assuage any nerves. First looks are a great way to take a breather and be with your love before having to interact with all your guests. I know how much you love your guests but time to yourself is not something to apologize for. It may also allow you to be more vulnerable which will result in truly precious photos.

Four | You don’t have to make a long winded speech. It is always nice to thank the people who are a part of your life and your wedding journey but there are a lot of ways to do that. Your friends and family know you and know if speeches make you break out in a cold sweat. Lean on your partner if this is a strong suit for them. Or write out your thoughts on a printed card that can be left at each seat. Your guests can read your sentiments and have it with them as a lovely token of your appreciation. Or pre record your thoughts and play it on a screen on the day of. Your wedding your way.

Five | Plan the wedding you want to have. You don’t have to dance in front of everyone if you don’t want to. You don’t have to sit separately at a sweetheart table, you don’t have to have a receiving line. You can set up your ceremony any way you want or even get the legalities out of the way in advance and have no ceremony and just a reception. Rock it your way.

In the end being introverted is a part of who you are and your wedding is a reflection of who you are. Your wedding should not be something you dread but something that celebrates your love story. Whatever that looks like.

Introvert guide to weddings

Arynn Photography | Toronto Wedding Photographer 

Heirloom

One of my favourite things to do is rifle through my parent's photo collection. They have boxes of photos all organized by the year. We pull each photo out and hold it in our hands and talk about the memories being held in ink and paper. Back in the day printing your photos was the only option. And because of that everyone has photos that they can pass down and preserve for future generations to see and enjoy. 

The current generation is the most photographed of all time! We can whip out our phones and take a million photos but the truth is what happens to those photos? If they are not printed then they are lost. Printing your memories makes them tangible and solidifies their existence. What I want for my couples is to have their wedding memories be a part of their family for generations to come! Your wedding was a once in a lifetime event and the photos depicting that deserve more than to sit on your computer. With the ever evolving state of technology it is vital, now more than ever, to make sure your wedding photos exist in a format that won't turn obsolete. 

I want to offer you heirloom products that will last the test of time. One day you and your grandkids can sit around on the sofa and flip through your album and it will spark memories of moments that defined who you turned out to be. 

Choose an heirloom custom album to preserve your images. These are gorgeous flushmount albums with thick lay flat pages. The pages are buttery soft and when cared for properly will last and last. You will choose the images you want in your album that tell the story of your wedding day. Order the size you would like and have full control over the cover fabric and colour. You can even choose smaller sizes for your parents. 

Another option is to choose a photo keepsake box. They come with 25 4x6 prints of your choosing. These are beautiful, high quality prints with a soft matte finish. 

Book a consult with me to come and see these items in person. Nothing compares to being able to hold them and feel the quality for yourself. Let's bring your memories to life.  

Arynn Photography | Toronto Wedding Photographer

2017 Year in Review: Arynn Photography Toronto Wedding Photographer

Every year I wonder how the previous year flew by so quickly! I mean seriously how does that happen? 2017 was a year filled with amazing weddings and just badass people to get to work with. I can't believe how lucky I was to be able to capture each of these unique weddings, engagements and family moments.

There are two many favourite moments for me to possibly cover them all! I got to photograph sweet moments between a bride and her bird, mini golfed till the sun went down, danced like no one was watching, laughed till I cried at some hilarious speeches, embraced the rain, wind and snow. I met so many wonderful new people! We popped champagne and stopped for beers. We snuck out of ceremonies to bathe in sunsets. 

I can never explain how grateful I am to each of you for inviting me into your lives and into your celebrations. For trusting me and giving me room to create. I can not wait to see what 2018 will bring and all the new memories I will be reflecting on next year. 

Arynn Photography | Toronto Wedding Photographer

What if it Rains?

Rain is dreaded on wedding days. But to be honest I have a dreamy crush on rain. There is something magical and romantic about it. After all, kissing in the rain is one of the most iconic romance movie tropes of all time! Plus as they say, rain is exceptionally good luck. 

Rain brings storm clouds which add unbelievable dimension to your images. The light can sometimes take your breath away as the sun comes and goes. Rain during the day often leads to 'blow your freaking mind' sunsets. The kind that look like they've been painted there. 

There is no need to fear rain on your wedding day. It makes for stunning photos. With just a little preparation, forethought and trust there is no reason for you to not take full advantage of every good thing rain has to offer. 

1. The most important thing is to prepare yourself. If it seems that it is going to rain that day deck your bridal party out! Get cute umbrellas that match your wedding colours. Have rain boots ready for yourselves. How fun would it be to dance in puddles with your love? I always have with me two clear umbrellas standing by. 

2. Your timeline is always exceptionally important but even more so when it rains. Make sure that there is a lot of buffer time. Rain can slow things down and time for touch ups is always appreciated. No one likes to feel rushed. Get your wedding planner to help you with this and I am always ready to help you make sure there is time for what you want and time to embrace the rain rather than run from it. 

3. Backup locations are something to think about. I am willing to run through the rain if you are but sometimes it is not always possible to shoot for long amounts of time in torrential down pours. Have an awesome indoor location in your back pocket just in case. I'd love to brainstorm options with you. 

4. Roll with the punches. You can't always plan for every bit of your wedding day. When it comes to rain sometimes you just have to kick off your shoes and run through puddles. You only live once after all. Pick up the dress and kick up some water. Dresses dry (actually pretty quickly) and memories are forever. You will remember your wedding day through amazing and fun images that really truly capture the lightheartedness you both brought to such a love filled (even rainy) day. 

Arynn Photography Toronto Wedding Photographer, Couple standing in the rain and kissing under and umbrella at Rainbow Valley Wedding Barn in Caledon

How to Have an Eco Friendly Wedding

There is so much that goes into a wedding, so much planning, so much love and time that goes towards your special day. It is so amazing to see more and more couples embracing eco friendly practices throughout their wedding day. There is no reason why you can't have a fabulous wedding and also think about the Earth in the process. I've compiled a few ideas of things you can keep in mind for your wedding that will not only impress your guests, but cause you to tread a little lighter on Mother Earth while you say your I Do's.

Choose a Venue or caterer that uses local foods

Be honest with your venue or caterer about what your wishes are and search one out that uses local foods and beverages. Local food mean less has to be shipped, reducing your wedding's carbon footprint. Plus, local food means business for local farmers and businesses and can often be much more fresh. Foodies rejoice!

Don't be afraid to ask your venue about their policies about recycling and composting. Check if they compost any of the leftover food. Even if they don't currently utilize that option, your voice is a great tool to influence venues decisions going forward. 

Choose in season flowers or planted arrangements

Along the same lines as local food, fresh in season flowers are a great way to incorporate some Earth friendly practices into your wedding day. Choosing flowers that are in season means they will not have to be shipped from elsewhere which can often even save you some cash. Embracing what is in season makes your wedding beautiful and in tune with the season you chose to get married in. Ask your florist which flowers or plants they recommend. Don't forget to compost the dead flowers after the wedding, or dry them out to keep them. Another option is to choose to have more planted, growing arrangements at your wedding. Terrarium centrepieces, planted decor for the ceremony and little planted succulents for bridesmaid bouquets. The sky is the limit.

Talk to your wedding planner

Keep your wedding planner in the loop about your desire for an eco friendly wedding. They will be a great resource in helping you scope out vendors that align with those values and who are willing to work with you. In the end you can surround yourself with a team of vendors all working towards a badass wedding for you and a group high five to Mother Earth. 

Consider Eco friendly decor and details

Shop for decor at second hand stores, rummage sales or flea markets. Not only will you walk away with some truly unique pieces but you'll be using items already in existence instead of encouraging the production of new items. Take a good thorough journey through Etsy and support your local artisans for decor as well. Check to see if they can ship using recycle friendly packaging. After your wedding, you can resell your decor for another eco loving bride to use. Check out local artisans and support local businesses. The great thing about local businesses is the ability to speak to and get to know the people behind your wedding details. They can let you know what goes into the making of their product. 

Get your guests in on the fun

Give your guests a mason jar with their name on it to use for the drinks for the night. This will help eliminate garbage in the form of plastic cups. Search rummage sales and thrift stores for mason jars, no need to buy them new. Then your guests can bring them home and continue to use them after the wedding. Offer paper straws that can be composted. 

Talk to your stationer

There are a ton of options when it comes to your wedding invitations. Consider emailing your save the dates to save on paper. Discuss recycled paper options for the actual invitations. 

Additional Attire

Although not for everybody, and I would not begrudge anybody their dream gown, there are additional options for wedding dress shopping. Renting a wedding dress is an option, although alterations are difficult for rented dresses. You can find great and unique wedding dresses at consignment shops that can be altered to a masterpiece made just for you. Or if you desire to go the custom route, seek out dressmakers who have local fabrics to choose from. If you have no desire to save your wedding dress, sell it to another bride after the wedding so it can find a new life. 

Favour Options

Forgo the packaged favours and opt for something package free. There are a ton of package free favour options. Or if you do choose packaging go for something recyclable. A great idea for eco friendly favours are a packet of seeds in a biodegradable pouch. Just plant the seeds in their packet and watch them grow. Or choose to forget traditional favours all together and donate to a local eco charity. 

 

 

 

 

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